Ruined Release

Thursday night my wife granted me a release--sort of. The end result was a ruined orgasm which means although I had the opportunity to release, the built up hormones and desire to submit to her remained. I suppose this is a good thing because so far as chastity stages go, perhaps I am still in chastity nirvana? Or maybe it means I'll get back there pretty quickly. We shall see.

In other news, life, as always, remains hectic and now we have some additional stressors to deal with. So don't be surprised if I don't get to post as often as I'd like to. But that doesn't mean I'm not continuing to strive to submit to my wife! I'll post when I can.

Locked & Denied

Today marks day 17 since my last orgasm. I know, some of you are probably thinking, "17 days, hell, that's nothing." You are right. But for me, it is something. I don't know but it might be the longest I've gone, at least in a long while. That being said, I've been locked in my CB3000 for most of this time. One of the guide pins broke but I was able to make another pin out of a plastic anchor. We've also acquired a Birdlocked Neo as a replacement. But since I fixed the other there's been no need to try the Birdlocked out. So it'll just sit in the box as a back up for the time being. I prefer the hard plastic cage anyway as it insures I won't be able to get any stimulation or touch while wearing it. That being said, I know I said this blog is not all about sex but sex is all I can think of lately. It seems I've become very horny in the last few days but have been unable to do anything about due to the cage and my wife having control over when, if ever, I get to enjoy a little pleasure of my own. Additionally, there hasn't been much by way of tease and denial lately due to work responsibilities, home responsibilities, other concerns, and the fact we've both been fairly tired lately and just want to go to sleep when we get in bed. But last night she released me from the cage and I thought for sure I'd be able to manipulate an orgasm out of her. But, as luck would have it, I was wrong--dead wrong. She played with me a little bit and then told me goodnight. She did let me stay out overnight but this morning I was expected to lock it back up before leaving the house--which I dutifully did after showering. So here I sit, locked and denied again--but aching for some pleasure of my own. But it is not to be, not now anyway. My focus must remain on her and her needs. I need to work hard at refocussing, as being the man I am sometimes all I can think about is me--something that there is no place for when one aspires to be his wife's slave. Maybe I've reached chastity nirvana.

Chastity nirvana has been defined by one blogger as that stage of chastity whereby the one in chastity experiences a "Zen-like feeling of being locked up accompanied by a desire to be locked up. During this phase a man can't imagine being any other way and in fact, gets anxious at the thought of not being locked up." I say perhaps I've reached this stage because even though part of me wanted to manipulate my way to an orgasm last night I'm glad my wife didn't give in to my shenanigans but instead kept me denied. And I'm definitely thankful to be back in the cage today. This is good, because even though part of me desires my own release I really want to focus my attention on my wife and her pleasure, her needs, her wants, her desires--everything her! I want to do more around the house. I want to get some of the things done she wants me to get done. I want to do these things because they are things she wants done. And I definitely want to have my face where it should be--between her legs bringing her one intense orgasm after another. 

So the question I don't know the answer to nor do I need to know the answer to is, "When will she release me and allow me an orgasm?" As we have grown in our experience of F/m enforced chastity, which she often calls, "The Game," we have both agreed that it is not necessary for me to know the answer to that question, even though I might want to know it badly. Such uncertainty insures on some level that I keep my desires at bay and her needs at the top of the list. In the chastity cycle this is called by some, "The Home Stretch." Again, one blogger defines the home stretch as the sense that some men have as to when they are going to be released. I'm not sure I'm in the home stretch or ever will be as I simply have no idea when she might release me--I can only hope. But there's always this internal struggle going on inside me to want to be release yet wanting to be denied. Perhaps this struggle is because I know that once release comes for me my desire to serve my wife plummets dramatically. This may also be part of my desire to see just how long this chastity routine can be pushed. Subservient-Husband recently posted on his blog his request to his wife to keep him in chastity for a year. My assumption here based on his post is that he won't be experiencing any orgasms for himself until this year long sentence is completed. I wish him the very best. I'm not sure if I'd ever make it that long and I'm not all that sure my wife would grant me such a request. But, here I am at day 17. We'll see how many more days my present sentence lasts. 

Helps for Getting Organized, De-cluttered, etc.

I've been giving a lot of thought to and doing a lot of research on how to get organized, de-clutter, get rid of crap we don't need, etc. My wife has told me on more than one occasion that her life would be a lot less stressful if there was a lot less "stuff" around and if the house was kept in some state of cleanliness and organization on an ongoing basis. Now don't get me wrong, our house is not a wreck by any stretch of the imagination. I mean, after all, in my male mind, it looks fine. But she'd like to see it clean and organized from her female mind perspective. And, when you have chosen to submit to her loving authority, when you have chosen to worship your wife and strive to meet her needs, then you want your house to be clean and organized according to her perspective. With that in mind, I've been walking around our house taking it all in. One things I've decided is there is a lot of stuff I (and we) aren't using. But yet we hold on to it, we keep moving it with us, for some reason we just can't part with it, be it stuff, clothes, books, etc. There's also a lot of paperwork--mostly mine--that for some strange reason I'm still holding onto when what I ought to do is shred it and be done with it!

One thing that helps me is seeing things on lists--think checklist. Checklists (or to-do-lists) give me a point of reference, something to keep coming back to in order to check myself out, to see if I'm accomplishing what really matters. That's one reason I've asked my wife for a to-do-list, which she has graciously given. I'm sure she'll add to it as she sees fit. She also gives me a grocery list each time I need to make a grocery run. She also makes lists for other errands she expects me to do for her and our household in general. With that in mind, I've been thinking of how best to develop a checklist for me to insure I get everything done I need to get done, that she wants me to get done, etc. One site I've stumbled across recently that has tons of helpful info, including checklist (you'll have to do a search b/c this site has everything from recipes to getting organized, etc., is Domestic Servitude. If you are a submissive husband serving or desiring to serve your wife, this site is a great place to start. I'm sure I'll be spending lots of time on it as I seek to hone my servitude.

Another helpful site I've discovered lately is ZenHabits. Now, I'm not "Zen" in the least. But this site has some helpful tips for the submissive or slave husband. Here's one such example--15 Great Decluttering Tips. I need all the help I can get as I tackle the clutter around here. So with my checklist in hand and the tips from all the aforementioned websites/blogs, I'll be ready to serve and please my wife by doing things for her that she has requested and will definitely appreciate. And I'll benefit too--eventually--when she lets me out of this blasted chastity cage...but until then, my focus is where it should be--upon her and her needs/wants/desires...

Daily Challenges--Trying to Figure it All Out

I've spent a lot of time thinking about ways to organize my life in order to better serve my wife. I've taken on some of the chores even though she hasn't necessarily assigned them to me. I've asked her on more than one occasion to let me know what I can do for her in order to make her life easier.  For years, even before realizing my need to submit to her, I have done things like grocery shopping. But it has only been in the last several months that I've come to see this as an act of submission to my my wife. She hates grocery shopping so I'm glad I can do this for her. I try to be thrifty with my shopping and always try to stick to the list, although she has never fussed at me or otherwise admonished me for straying from the list. I also try to take our child with me as often as possible just to give her a break.

I did so today and returned to discover she had vacuumed the entire house. I've often wondered why she just doesn't tell me to do those things. But perhaps she finds doing some work around the house to be therapeutic. Anyone else out there have similar experiences? Anyway, my job has allowed her to stay home for the past several years. I think there may be some feelings of guilt on her part about letting or otherwise telling me to do more around the house knowing I've worked hard all day, which not only meets our financial needs, but also allows her to stay home. I've often encouraged her to get over that and just "play along." But still, she manages to get much of the housework in herself.

Another thing I've been trying to do to assume more responsibility around the house is to organize my schedule in such a way that she can go to the gym each day and workout. My job allows me some flexibility in my schedule and my own workout schedule so I am able to do this. I also try to make it a point to always get dishes from the sink to the dishwasher, keep the dishwasher empty, wipe down counters, stove top, microwave, etc., before she has a chance to do it herself. My thinking here again is submission and service, trying to make her life easier since she spends her days at home raising our little one while I'm away at work getting "adult interaction" as she sometimes puts it. I also try to find ways to give her as much free time as possible where she can get away and get some "adult interaction" minus the little one.

All this being said, I still have the list she gave me earlier this week to work on. One item which she wanted to see done by today may be delayed due to technical difficulties. She is aware of and understands this but it will not change the fact that there will be no "release" until said list is finished. That being said, I better quit writing and get to back to work!

The List...The Subspace...Oh My!

I've asked my wife more than once to let me know what she wants me to do for her, and if she's willing, to give it to me as a list of chores. So you can imagine my submissive delight when earlier today I got a text from her indicating she had written just such a list of things for me to accomplish. It was a short list (at least in my mind), only six items, but nothing easy--just some things she would like done around the house. My favorite part of the text was it was so matter of fact--"I have list for you. Compliance equals possible release. Non-compliance equals delay." I like that word, "possible." Just because I'm obedient to the task at hand does not necessarily equate immediate release and orgasm for me. 

But the text and the list definitely sent me into subspace. I think the only thing that would have made the trip more powerful would have been to be locked--something that is not the case at the moment due to a malfunctioning chastity cage. But a new one--a birdlocked--is en route. And I think a quick trip to the hardware store might result in a quick fix for the other. We shall see. I have so much to do now that I may not have time for any quick trips anywhere unless they are at her direction.

I am thankful for the list and the opportunity to serve my wife--to be her slave--by completing things she has indicated she wants done. I do hope such lists will continue coming and include more and more responsibilities for me, whether they be housework, running errands--whatever! 

And maybe, just maybe--at some point--she really will tell me to clean the kitchen floor and then..."carry me upstairs and make love to me like a stallion." But in my case, she might add, "without having an orgasm!"

The Chastity Cycle

Today is day 7 since my last authorized orgasm. I have been locked in the cage for 4 of those days. Yesterday, I noticed I was aroused the entire day but I couldn't do anything about it. Even as I worked at my job it was all I could think about--just under the surface. I think if I was not caged I would have definitely been relieving myself. So the cage, in this case, is a good thing. I related to my wife last night that I had been horny most of the day and suggested I might be getting to that stage where leaving it locked up for several days might be the best route to take. In other words, no tease/denial until the weekend, at the earliest. Of course, she agreed but also found a way to do a little tease/denial even with the cage on. 

All that being said, I've done some reading about the stages of chastity or the chastity cycle. I'm wondering if yesterday hit the phase described in the "stages of chastity" as chastity nirvana. I don't know but if it is, I like it, even though for me, it was somewhat torturous. But I also noticed my focus/desire was continued service to my wife--doing things around the house, cuddling in bed--things like that.

I'm curious if any of my readers (all 2 of you) have had similar experiences you'd want to share via the comments section or point to your own resources on the subject?

Weekend of Chastity and Service

My wife gave me one task to complete this weekend and I just finished it! But I didn't let that one task keep me from doing other things around the house this weekend. I took care of the dishes, cleaned the kitchen, tackled the well overdue kitchen counter, cleaned the toilets/baths, and picked up around the house. The whole time I was kept in my chastity device which only added to my submissive feelings/desires to serve my wife. She did release me for a couple sessions of tease/denial which was pure pleasure for her and pure torture for me. I think both session must have lasted a couple hours. But after a while, I lost all track of time. It is amazing the affect giving up control of my orgasms has on me. I've noticed my attention becomes super focused on wife worship & service...and I don't mean worship is the sacrilegious sense. I just enjoy my wife and her body! I also put together another "cheat sheet" for my wife because all this is still fairly new to her and it seems dominance doesn't come naturally. Well, it did early on in our marriage but I was too stupid to notice my own submissive desires then. But, better late than never. It is similar to the cheat sheet located in my post on submissive yearnings from last year. Maybe I will post them here soon. In the meantime, I've also purchased the PDF format of the book, "Worshipping Your Wife," by Mark Redmond, whose blog can be seen here: Worshipping Your Wife Blog. I highly recommend it to any husband or boyfriend with submissive desires yearning to let them out in service to your woman! It is an excellent read and it's not all about sex but it does spend at least one chapter discussing relinquishing control over to her in that department. Well, I better quit writing and get back to serving!

Back - Sort of...

It's been a long while since my last post--200+ days to be exact.  Well, I've been busy with life and the challenges and curveballs that brings. My wife and I haven't been practicing our wife led marriage -- or "the game" as she calls it. But we did start back last week with a little D/s play in the bedroom, which only served to rekindle and remind me of my deeply hidden submissive desires. And today the chastity device went back on. So now I'm up to 4 days since my last release as you can easily see in the counter on the lower left of this blog. I'm not sure how long it'll be until the next release for me but she'll be having plenty of fun, at least in the bedroom.  Out of the bedroom, life is challenging for both of us with a little one at home and my job and all the challenges that brings. But we will try as we can. She did give me an assignment for the weekend so somewhere between work responsibilities and finding a minute to rest I have to carry out her instructions. I'll let you know how successful I am!